Open your drawers
I’m getting pissed off at people on Facebook who have their privacy settings adjusted so that when they try to befriend me and I try to see who they are, they keep me from seeing anything about them. A fine way to start a friendship. I am ignoring them all. Pshaw.
Tags: facebook
July 13th, 2007 at 9:17 pm
Part of the problem, Jeff, is that the privacy setting is the same for friend requests as it is for messages (and pokes). Just because I send a message to someone, doesn’t mean I want to open my entire life to them. I often send messages to people who I do not intend to ‘friend’ from groups or networks, etc. A friend request, I think, should always expose the full profile…
July 14th, 2007 at 3:50 pm
Personally, I would actually like to be able to adjust the privacy settings even more. I think it would be great to be able to define what people can see by my relationship to them.
For example, I might want to share certain photos with my family and others with my colleagues from a certain workplace.
What information is it you find so vital when befriending people, when you meet people in real life, you will not know their DoB straight away
July 15th, 2007 at 2:08 pm
Jeff,
you’re getting to the root of the big blue elephant in the room.
I wouldn’t blame the people who want to be your friends. It sounds like they’ve probably left their settings on the default, which results in your inability to look at their profiles.
July 16th, 2007 at 9:22 am
Jeff,
That is an interesting point, but I couldn’t look at your profile either! Unless of course you’ve changed it since I requested friendship. Didn’t you say you’d only befriend those you knew?
Regardless, you are right, there should actually be a setting that exposes certain info to potential buds and a different one that hides everything, and yet another that displays all info. Still, you can add the friend and examine their page, then afterward delete them as a contact if you choose. It’s not perfect, but it works for me in such cases.
July 16th, 2007 at 3:36 pm
Is that why you ignored my request? And here I was taking it personally…..
July 17th, 2007 at 8:29 pm
Jeff…you’ve hit on a core problem with Facebook–as in, what is it *really* for?? is it for personal, or business or some amalgam in between…
and if it’s for business, and the people wanting to be your “friend” only want business-friends, they *may* be reluctant to make their personal information more available…
Then again, if that’s they case, they should be a little more careful whom they “friend.”
July 18th, 2007 at 9:50 am
I studiously avoid having people on my friends list who I do not know in real life. I’ll add an acquaintance, a friend of a friend, or a business contact, but not some random “I know everyone on the internet” guy.
That said, if someone wants to be my friend, I do not need to see their profile to know whether I’m accepting them or not.
November 5th, 2007 at 1:45 am
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